How to Focus on the Smaller Things to Find True Happiness
True happiness is waking up to a bowl of delicious cereal in the morning that you’ve been looking forward to all day.
Likewise, happiness is sitting down on the couch and knowing you’re about to watch the new episode of your favorite TV show.
It’s also getting a backrub from your partner.
These are all examples of what many of us would consider ‘little things’ but that doesn’t mean that they can’t be absolutely instrumental in helping us to feel happier. These are ‘creature comforts’ and pleasant asides but they are super powerful in raising our mood and helping us to feel on top of the world.
So the question is, how do you get to the point where little things make you happier and how do you make sure you have a constant supply of such things to make you happy?
Finding the Little Things
The first thing to do is to find those little things and to make sure they keep coming. All of us have things that make us feel great and all of us have hobbies and activities that we enjoy.
The trick then is to identify how you can enjoy those things on a regular basis – whether it’s a favorite food or whether it’s your favorite TV show.
Next, you need to make plans to enjoy those things. A little ‘pleasure delay’ here can work wonders, so ideally you want to spend the whole day at work looking forward to that thing that you want to do in the evening. Don’t constantly indulge but instead build up the moment in your mind and look forward to it happening.
Great Things to Do
The problem is that many of us don’t know how to make the very most of our spare time. We spend all day watching useless TV we aren’t really interested in instead and this is our ‘down time’.
In fact though, there are countless great things you can be doing all the time and the vast majority of them are free.
You could download a free computer game for instance. You could try out a new program or film on Netflix. You could explore a local park. You could read that book you bought ages ago and forgot about. You could try cooking something weird and ambitious. You could try to plant your own bonsai tree…
There are a million different activities, so spend some time thinking about all the exciting things you could do at home and make a habit of writing more ideas down as they come to you. Indulge in your favorite food meanwhile and suddenly your life will be filled with amazing little moments.